Last night on the el I saw a guy (18? younger?) who totally reminded me of my first boyfriend who was a computer geek who was very attractive when he took his glasses off. This guy last night also wore glasses and was quite tall but with slumped shoulders. He had beautiful dark brown hair, ivory skin and great lips. Headphones plugged his ears, he kept his head down, and as I watched he tugged his hair down over his forehead. I could see the lack of confidence, and the desire to speak to him was powerful.
Finally I got up, sat next to him, and tapped his arm. When I had his attention, I said, “You’re very good looking and keeping your shoulders straight will make you look more confident, trustworthy…and hot.”
“Oh. Okay. Thanks.” He handled the startling moment well, and I moved away to sit in front of him. A moment later, he tapped me on the shoulder.
“How does the shoulders thing look trustworthy?” he asked. I sat up taller to demonstrate and said, “Well, having your shoulders straight makes you look more open, like someone can lean on you and depend on you.” He seemed to get it and nodded. “Oh, okay.”
And that was it. Who knows what this encounter meant for him, but I just know there are girls who think the same thing about this guy all the time, but could never, ever say it. I considered myself to be doing a public service.